Tsawwassen, B.C -- As parents of teenagers, we read with interest the article Unglued (Jan. 31). We fail to see why "grownups won't like it."

We attended Gordon Neufeld's seminars. His book reiterates: Effective parenting lies in nurturing the relationship. We have never regretted this approach. Judith Rich Harris's apparent suggestion - that we dress our kids in Nikes and toss them to whichever peers take over - is the real bunk.

Dr. Jean Wittenberg said it's our job "to help the child move from the breast . . . learning to cope with friends and acquaintances along the way." We agree!

To push the bird from the nest while it still lacks feathers? As our children assert their independence from us, they also learn to keep it with friends.

Many Vancouver parents have learned from Mr. Neufeld over the years.